Domestic abuse can happen to anyone regardless of their ethnicity, gender, race, age or social status. Statistics show that 1 in every 4 women will encounter domestic violence at least once in their lifetime. Women suffer more than 4 million reported assaults and rapes from their partner and reports show that men suffer from nearly 3 million reports of physical assault. There are also 3 million children who have to witness domestic violence in their home every year. These statistics are disheartening and hard to swallow. That is why it is important to be educated on how to recognize the signs of domestic violence so you can help put a stop to it. Whether you are victims to domestic abuse or you suspect that friend or loved one is suffering abuse, here are some helpful tips to help you recognize it:
- The person may have unexplained bruises on their arms, face or anywhere on their body.
- Abuse victims tend to makes themselves social outcasts by creating distance between them and their family or friends. This is because they are afraid that their abuser will get angry catching them socializing with someone else and they will get physically assaulted even more. That is why abuse victims tend to walk on eggshells to avoid a dispute with their partner.
- You can tell a lot by looking at someone's facial expressions. Domestic abusers tend to look angry, frustrated or annoyed and the abuse victims tend to have facial expressions of fear, sadness and paranoia. Victims of abuse will often have great fear of their partner.
- Look at people's body language in order to tell if someone has abusive tendencies. The abuser typically clenches their hand into a fist or clenches their teeth when they are about to physically assault someone.
- Sometimes just seeing a police car outside the abuser's house can be a clue of domestic violence. Neighbors also often hear screaming and yelling coming from next door. Both of these could be seen as clear signs of domestic abuse.
- Domestic abusers tend to be controlling and they belittle their victim to make them feel lowly and helpless. Abusers also tell their victim that they can't do anything right and that they deserve to be treated this way. Many times abusers threaten that they will commit suicide or come after you and hurt you or your children if you ever try to leave them.
- Abusers tend to have short tempers and unpredictable angry fits of rage and they destroy and break things.
- Signs of emotional abuse can be seen with yelling, name-calling, shame, and blame. Abusers use intimidation, isolation and controlling tactics in emotional abuse and it ends up causing psychological abuse in the victim. This goes to show that emotional abuse can be just as bad, if not worse than physical abuse.
Remember that domestic violence is not just physical but it can also take the form of forcing sex upon their partner. Domestic abuse can be emotional, physical or sexual and it can lead to depression and an emotional numbness and no one deserves to feel that way. Recognizing the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step towards a fresh start. If you believe that you are in a violent and abusive relationship or you know someone who is, then get help and legal protection.
Speak to a Culver City divorce attorney today about filing for a protective order. With a restraining order you can better ensure your safety or the safety of your loved ones. Contact us at Widger & Widger, APLC for a
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